Posts by Melisa Uchida
Get Healthy in 2023
I know a lot of people who take better care of their cars than their bodies. We take our cars to the mechanic several times a year for tune-ups and oil changes. We give it gas, vacuum and clean it, and when the “serve engine” light goes on, we take it in for service. Our physical bodies give us “service engine” signs all the time.
Read MoreNavigating the Holidays in Grief
he holidays are supposed to be a time of family, joy, celebration for life. How do you celebrate life when the person you love so much is no longer alive? It is heart breaking, and a harsh reminder, that the life you had planned is now obsolete.
Read MoreCan I be addicted to suffering?
You may have heard the phrase, “Pain is inevitable; Suffering is optional.” Pain is something that all humans experience. It arises out of physical and emotional discomfort, loss or change in a world where change is constant. Therefore, pain is inevitable. Suffering happens when the mind focuses on pain to the degree that it ignores everything else. Suffering happens when the mind does not move past the pain. It ruminates and keeps the person stuck.
Read MoreAddicted to Feeling Bad
January 13, 2021 This is a transcription of one of Nate’s voice memos, recorded five months before his death. Today was a weird day. I have, a lot of weird days right now. I feel raw – emotionally raw, like, I have no skin. Every touch stings. Even the wind blowing stings my skin. That’s…
Read MoreDeath by Suicide Part 1
If you have lost someone to suicide, let me first start by saying that I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one to death by suicide is like a triple whammy of losses: grief + sudden loss + trauma. Grief is what we feel as we process and try to make sense…
Read MoreMessages from Spirit
I started receiving messages from Spirit one month before my husband died. It was the Saturday night before Mothers’ Day 2021. I was on my bed, frozen. Nate was having a psychotic episode. Nate’s body was there, but the man I had married, the person who I felt safe with, loved and appreciated, was not.…
Read MoreTHE PATH OF THE YOGI: INTEGRITY
Slowly, we lose our ability to trust ourselves. We say things that we know we don’t mean. Then we lose the ability to know truth from the stories we repeat over and over. We become puppets, performing for others, because we want others to see us a certain way. Basically, our live becomes a series of inauthentic moments strewn together by connections of habit, familiarity, comfort or fear of the unknown.
Read MoreWhich is more important to you: Piece of mind or Peace of Mind?
You do have a choice in how you feel. It means choosing a thought that produces a different feeling. It takes practice, patience and self-compassion.
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